|Posted by Sheryl Jai on October 7, 2014 at 5:50 PM||comments (0)|
Lost Art Form: Getting to know people
Are we only living in the age of quick, short and fast communication? Really? How fulfilling is that for you?
The people I talk to want MORE fulfilling relationships, not LESS!
While we dearly appreciate the four agreements made popular by Don Miguel Ruiz, one of which is to not assume anything, this is exactly how we live today. Assuming we know what is inside someone from a quick, short and fast answer on text or facebook or twitter or whatever form of social media you use.
We are in relationships, the very closest ones with family and dear friends, yet how many of them are really how we would like them to be?
We have tried and tried and still we do not know how to ask the very questions that would give us the depth of relationship that we so strongly desire. Many of my clients come seeking greater clarity on how to stay current with changing relationships, spousal, friendships, and their children’s growth. This year more than any other, this one topic is clear – we have not been connecting on the level of love.
Some examples: We are assuming we have agreements on many simple things like how to parent children, just because one parent doesn't argue with the other. Or, when we ask for something simple and our mate ignores us as if we have no opinion or needs other than for them, and we fail to ask for understanding. Or, when a child is so afraid to go to school because they do not know what they need or want and do not ask for help from a grown up or mentor, then get bullied. The list is long and as you can imagine there are many more forms of assumptions happening within relationships, on every level.
In my tenure on this planet I have had the greatest learning possible in having a direct relationship with the one I had been wanting all my life, my divine, the God of my understanding. This relationship has taught me that I do not EVER get an answer unless it is an answer that supports my growth!!!!!!!! Let's break this down a bit. With divine's support and love, I have learned to love myself. This does not mean that I don't have judgements and criticisms about myself from past conditioning. It just means that no matter what I need, it's a true need, in the moment, and I give it to myself. When I make assumptions I quickly realize that there is no relationship happening with my divine. I listen deeper and find that an old belief is pursuing me and I begin to feel uncomfortable. With that, I check in and ask a question pertinent to what I'm wanting in that moment. That is when clarity comes and support and growth are there for me.
This simple practice has taught my mind to become more curious about life more than assume I know how things will go. This simple practice has changed my relationships from being confusing to being more agreeable, because others feel and know that I am understanding what they want. In return, if I am not getting what I need, I ask to be heard, or ask to have a moment of attention, or offer some feedback as to how the interaction is causing my next move with them. If there is no response, this tells me more about how the relationship can continue – at this point, for me, it either becomes a surface relationship or one that slowly dwindles to nothing.
When I am heard, at the very least (this does not mean that I always get what I want either) I have a deeper sense of connection with that person and the relationship can flourish. That deep connection happens in each moment. It's not always about getting what you want, it's about taking a risk to ask, listen and ask and listen. This gives us all a feeling of deep connection with another. Some times it’s only a matter of feeling another’s heart is open to hearing you completely. When that deep need to connect is fulfilled, the 'wants' just seem to be fulfilled on their own.
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|Posted by Sheryl Jai on September 3, 2014 at 4:30 PM||comments (0)|
Ways to comfort yourself during times of change
Eat healthy comfort foods. Include lots of good oils like coconut, ghee and castor. This will give you a nice feeling of fullness. Feed your body what will give you new cells that speak your true self to the old cells that are sluffing off. Don't cheat on yourself.
Rest when your body says it needs rest. Avoid overwork, pushing through the day and worry about things that are not up to you to figure out. When you lay down to rest, empty your mind of the day by giving gratitude to all that happened and more gratitude to yourself for doing the best you can, ask for help with the rest.
Breathe Deeply. Sometimes change can cause the body to slump or shallow breathe because there is so much going on. So, when you feel this take some conscious breaths and say your favorite mantra (I am here now) or, i love you, for 3 breaths. Do this often during your day to help stay present and clear.
Watch the way you explain your situation, Every Word is a Prayer, so you are constantly speaking your truth without complaining about it. Your words go directly to the God of your understanding. Example, 'everything is so hard' could be 'I'm learning how to handle hard things in my life'.
Help someone else. When you feel hopeless or helpless, look for others to help. A simple smile, or opening a door for someone, or offering a hand with a simple task won't take any energy from you to do but will give you mounds of good karma back. When you are open to this, it will show up for you to say 'i can help you with that'.
Be tender and gracious to yourself. Go slower than you think you need to. I can promise you that life will continue to flow (well) without you if you slow down. You do not have to be in charge of everything you think. Being slower can allow for conscious choice in each moment, a chance to express your true self rather than a reaction. And can give you a moment to breathe and actually see what is true for you before you speak or act.
Have Gratitude. Whatever you water, blossoms, right? When you give gratitude to others in your life, yourself and recognizing that the God of your understanding is with you ALL the time and can begin to see the ways things work out without you working so hard or having to pay attention to so many details or berate yourself for missing some details, you will see just how precious you truly are and are honored for being alive.
Drink more clear pure water than you think you can. This helps to flush out old toxins that store in fatty areas and cells that are ready to slough off. This is very important to overall health and vital energy.
Last, ask for help. Whenever, whereever and whatever you need. People are usually open to hear and provide whatever they can for you. Ask for a hug or a conversation with tender listening. Have big gratitude for your friends and family willing to help you in times of need and any time.
from my book 50 Feet in 4 Seconds, the True Story of a Leap of Consciousness and Ultimate Health.
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on June 23, 2014 at 1:05 PM||comments (0)|
The eyes of God see me
Everywhere I look
The eyes of God looking at me
I see the light and peering through the trees, I see the light of God’s eyes staring at me
Walking in the park I see the eyes of nature’s love giving me the love of the divine
Pondering the limitless state of knowing that I am - there – everywhere
And everything looks towards me
Mutualy, synchronistically in each moment that I am seeing
The picture of divine’s eyes are in everyone, everywhere - and I am moved
My heart expands beyond it’s physical capacity to an unknown realm
Thoughts and past knowing melting into trust that my purpose here is shown to me in all I see
As the eyes of God see the love in me – God is pleased
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|Posted by Sheryl Jai on May 20, 2014 at 4:00 PM||comments (0)|
What if I told you that, for real, no kidding, you could have everything you ever wanted n your life, not in the time you want it, but even better than you could ever imagine?
Would you question it?
If ALL you wanted was given to you right now, would you be able to have it all now?
How much would you doubt over and over and over until, maybe, one day, you would give it to yourself?
All you would have to do, is . . . get this . . . breathe in gratitude. Yep, that is it! No magic, no studying, no learning anything new.
Just look at your own life and actually ‘see’ the good that you have already. Like, I’m so grateful that I have a boss you truly loves me more than anything else in the world, and that boss is me.I am so grateful that I have my own home that my heart is bursting open feeling the love of my home and how amazing it is to have the colors I want, the location I want, the street name I want, grant st, yes, I am receiving grants now for my foundation and I am so grateful. The feeling of grateful, for me, is in my heart. I see it, taste it, feel it open me, smell it - it’s like heaven, hear it - it says to me ‘lovey you are so beautiful and we love giving to you’ and now I’m knowing that my gratitude, my sixth sense is fully activated now and in presence. My seventh sense of open is demonstrating that with an open heart, mind and being, I receive what is completely appropriate for me, no other agenda, just gratitude.
I am learning this as I unlearn that thinking about what I am grateful for is truly a practice, but being grateful is unphamtonable. And, before the day ends, just before midnight received another paying client for tomorrow, while watching tv and feeling my heart opening to gratitude. The time is now peeps.
There is no tomorrow. The time is now to own, yes, own your senses in a timely manner, know who you are, yes, even this trite statement means so much when you slow down enough to really get it, and own your power and what is naturally happening inside you. Not only say yes to it, be grateful for what you already have, what you are wanting and the food in your refrigerator, the toilet paper on the roll when you need it, the phone to dial, the computer working, the car starting and running on empty for a week and yes, still running, the people who paved your driveway and street, the people who put on your favorite tv show, the sweet invitations at the other end of the phone, the gifts that come without asking, It’s like a super highway of love and gifts directed at you. Open and receive them, now.
See that you already know what to do. This is what happens for me. I truly get something and realize the difference it will make in my life to keep doing it, call it practicing. But something happens over time. It’s like, I get tired or complacent in the practice, or I get bored about having so much and begin to twart my own practice and get on that merry go round, only to return to the practice realizing it's all in my mind - i must use all my senses to truly 'see'.
My quest-i-on to God/Divine/Goddess is to show me how to maintain that frequency, that energy that will hold as a natural state of being the grace that is the flow of gratitude without having to practice or get on or off track. The truth comes - It is truly nothing more than a choice in the moment, until it becomes natural, which I do believe with all my heart that it can become.
Until then, choose, every moment to live in grace, by realizing with your mind, words, thoughts and most important - your feelings, that you are grateful for your very existence. Not lying to yourself or needing to be positive. Please don't hear that in what I'm saying. I'm talking about shifting to a natural state of being - gratitude.
Silly as it sounds, I feel time speeding up, especially after these last three eclipses (8/09), which is similar to me of the last month's energies (4/14). They were very powerful energy for me. I felt weak at times, sick, no energy, and the next day full, deeply connected and yet the next day, weak again, no energy, no way for my thoughts to support myself. And it seemed that the world right next to me was watching me.
As I stopped at a light in my town, I saw three beautiful young men crossing in the crosswalk in front of me. One of the men was particularly beautiful without a shirt on - my thought and heart felt, ‘Wow, he’s beautiful’, immediately he looked up at me as if I said it out loud and pointed his finger at me while changing his gate into a swagger and acting exactly like Joey Tribiani on friends said to me as that finger pointed at me with a flirt, ‘how YOU doing?:” is that proof?Ah, there’s so much more. It’s almost as if every thought of mine is picked up by someone else, or I am picking up someone else’s thoughts and they are immediately acted out. This is Grace and it’s happening all the time, just pay attention. And a word of caution, if you are angry or stuck in an unproductive feeling, it will get acted out by someone immediately. We have free will and this is the key thing to know and remember here.
Gratitude works . . . and so does free will. All the time. You can bank on it, probably better than the economic culture we are changing right now. So don’t focus on anything in particular. Just be grateful of the little things, in every moment. If you focus too much on what you want to happen, then you are putting out lack energy on that thing. It won’t happen as easily as if you take your focus off that and put it onto what’s right in front of you and love and have gratitude for that.
Look around you in this moment and you will see what there is to be grateful for. My books, my desk, my lights, lots of pens to write with, my beautiful fingers gliding across this keyboard, the agility of my fingers, the knowing of where to go as I think, the fresh slightest of breezes that come in the summer night, the sound of the birds singing in the trees, or is that crickets, it can go on and on and on, and what more precious to do than to keep your focus on what is real, you.
Two techniques to build your Gratitude Muscle:
1. When you are laying down from the day, before you go to sleep, go over the things that DID happen and be grateful. When you come across something that didn’t get done or happen, let it go and be grateful that tomorrow you will find the solution.
2. Take moments to write what you are grateful for, or, just say in your heart during your day, as you do what you do, what you can be grateful for in each moment. Writing seems to be powerful for some, like me, just re-reading your own words can fill your heart with love. Some people keep a gratitude journal daily.
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on May 12, 2014 at 2:10 PM||comments (0)|
The cost of words and the gift of them.
We live in a society where we are desensitized to how we come across to people.
The gift of words can as compelling as a gift or be like a knife, without you even knowing. I submit that everyone walking this earth has dealt with some difficult times in their life.
When you speak to a friend, family member or casual acquaintance, you will never know what may uplift their day or upset them, or trigger them into an old wound. We also have no common language to express our pain and hurt to each other in a socially acceptable, friendly way.
Yes, there are many techniques you can learn, and, how many people will learn the same techniques you do, so that when there is a sticky situation, you both are on the same page?
This situation is one of the places that keep us separated from each other. To me, it has become intolerable and I am looking for a solution – a common way to express when things go awry in a relationship.
In my experience when there is a conflict the old way or typical reaction is for people to run away from each other, take their love and presence away or damage each other further by using more words that wound. Just hearing someone you love or care about say ‘I don’t want to talk about this’ is so hurtful.
So I am looking for the solution within me. Investigating. Asking my divine to help me ‘see’ clearly and understand my own responsibility to my communication. Where have I hurt others with my words? What have I done to others that hurt them so much they could not talk to me anymore? What have I said that touched an old wound and kept people from relating to me any longer?
The answers come and I change, regularly. Life gives me lots of practice.
When a conflict comes up I look to see how authentic I can be towards myself first. It seems to be working because there are less conflicts between me and others. And the interesting thing is, I notice more happy people around me rather than people in conflict. This slows my reaction and my responses. I'm noticing more. I find that my responses become more loving towards others, because I am checking to see what I need first (which is a loving act towards myself).
Sacred living is the vision that motivates me in life. Within it’s very nature are keys to keeping love present. The question is, when will we all have the same goals – to keep relationships honest, authentic, vulnerable and real and deepening to a place where love exists even when there is a wound? What do you say?
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on March 2, 2014 at 3:35 AM||comments (0)|
Are we a human having a spiritual experience . . . or a spirit having a human experience? by Sheryl Jai
When we are committed to following a spiritual path, whatever it may be, situations in life still happen. The question is what to do about them, do you react or respond? How do you integrate being spiritual with being human? For me, this is a quest that has no answer. Seems that whenever I feel I’ve figured it all out, my life presents me with a situation in which there is no answer. As human being we are process oriented, as spirit beings we are whole and complete in every moment.
So you go along with your practices and find one day life is changing. Even though you’ve asked for things to change, when they come about different than what you have pictured or you think you’ve asked for, you cringe or resist, or sometimes even, dig in and want it your way. Let’s take love for example, a relationship is going along seemingly just fine, each committed to each other and themselves, small bumps get worked out well and are generally happy. Then one day, one says they are ready for something else in their life - a change. If the other one doesn’t readily agree it seems to be a conflict. I say this is not the case . . . breathe for a moment and let’s explore a bit deeper.
As a spiritual being, I hope one of your practices is being with yourself. . . space in a safe and nurturing environment. At this juncture, you take the possible conflict and breathe it within yourself. Watch for discomfort, angst, fear and the like. Allow that feeling to be in place, otherwise you will push it into resistance and then act unconsciously (react) around your mate, with possible damage to them and, ultimately, yourself. Instead, allow your feelings within you to percolate to the surface of your consciousness, heal them yourself and make your choice of what is best for you to do. If your commitment is to love AND the relationship, I believe this is the perfect time to grow yourself. If your commitment is to yourself, this again is a perfect time to grow and if your commitment is to God and to serve, this is also a perfect time to grow.
Now just choose for yourself which choice you’ve made so easily in the past in the same situation and evaluate how well that choice has worked out for you. Is it time to make a new choice? Remember each choice, as a spiritual being, is for the moment, the best choice for the moment and you must be wiling to be responsible for any consequences that choice has, in the moments to come. Staying in truth to your highest consciousness is what allows for change in a peaceful way. The ego just let’s go and you glide into the next phase of being more you. . . spiritually.
Now let’s take a look at the human being. When a partner makes a statement about now being a time for change that confronts you or doesn’t match your pictures of the relationship, the body reacts, the mind reacts and the emotional body reacts. Each one of these has a different reason for its reaction. The body is reacting to past memories of similar situations that didn’t go well, therefore, you will predict this one not going well and may not be in the place of wanting anything to change because of it. The mind reacts because its connection to the ego is wanting to make change in its own way, therefore an argument in-sues inside the mind, called confusion, which way to go, keep it or give it away and so on until chaos reigns within the mind and possibly a loss of energy or depression. The emotional body reacts in much the same way wherever any one of these situations has come up from the past and the solution was other than of your choosing, maybe someone forced a solution on you and you felt you had no choice, or you’ve chosen what you thought was a good choice and it didn’t work out well and the emotional body hasn’t healed from that situation, so it reacts. This is where wars come from, within nations, within people.
Integrating all these reactions within the spiritual being is the opportunity that is being presented here. How do you do that, what do you do? By being centered in the IAM and meditating on any change or situation, you can commit to yourself that you are in the right place at the right time and things will always work out, for the best. Within the peace of this knowing and allowing yourself to let go (or heal) of all past issues you stay in the moment and really begin to see fair, whole, healthy solutions to previously very difficult problems. When you are centered you are able to communicate well to your partner the feeling and rightness of your choice within the change that is being requested of you and your life participating with this partner. Once there are no pulls of resistance or reaction, solutions pop into existence, almost as though God were present in the room with you, miracles. And your relationship as well as yourself, grow.
There are many tools and techniques to assist our human selves into a centered and peaceful outlook. Contact Sheryl Jai to learn some of these tools and practice them on your way to your spiritual human being.
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on December 16, 2013 at 4:15 PM||comments (0)|
It is my honor to share with you an interview I did earlier this year with Misa Hopkins. It's a journey of spiritual growth weaved through our discussing my falling off a cliff, what proceeded that, the healing, God/Divine, the collective consciousness, and some about the time and challenges we live with right now and how the Crystalline Diamond Clearings works, and so much more. Enjoy and I would love to hear your comments.
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on May 27, 2012 at 1:40 PM||comments (0)|
It's been a while since I wrote something new here. The Audio Blogs were great fun and they had their time, now it's time to write again!
Remember when I talked about life speeding up? Well guess what? Life has sped up and accelerated so much that changes in your life may be happening every day now! Since I returned from India in April 2012 (I was there for 5 weeks, 4 of which were spent in a 28 day ashram at Oneness University in a program called the Deepening and another week to integrate in Chennai and have some long overdue dental work) I am experiencing deep love, a connection to source I have never experienced before. My mind is now only used for purposeful things. Yes, when your mind goes, what we are talking about is the mind that keeps your life slow and unproductive! Your divine path is to be the vehicle for God's goodness here on earth. So when your mind goes, what is going is all the background chatter. What is also going is all the unresolved emotional drama, trauma and judgments that keep you stuck. Cool huh? What is left is an experience of life fully present in the moment, able to take it life and respond to your inner truth. No more suppressing yourself, no more tolerating situations that are intolerable - move on, gracefully. So many changes happen in a beautiful way that it's quite astounding. To have your mind be useful, shart, witty, charming and productive on whatever you need to do as a human who is connected and directed by your personal divine, wow! Yours is coming, if you are not experiencing this yet, you will - soon!
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on April 15, 2010 at 9:01 PM||comments (0)|
Are you sleeping? Are you aggravated or irritated? Are you in wondering what is going on inside you?
Yesterday was the new moon for the beginning of theastrological chart in Aries. Verypowerful. Plus, we are moving intoa Mercury Retrograde period in a few days. Many people, including me, were not able to sleep or felt abit of expansion along with some uncomfortable energy in our body. It was also reported by some,irritation about knowing which direction to take, uncomfortable changes coming,and a discomfort with not knowing.
These are the types of physical, mental and emotionalchanges that happen when we have a large vision or big goals to accomplish,namely reaching our spiritual purity and divine love. Sometimes the ego will have a long inner discussion with youabout how important it is to hold on and keep things going exactly asplanned. Sometimes you will alsoneed more sleep or be unable to sleep at the appropriate time.
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms or possiblyothers, please be kind and gentle with yourself. It is my understanding that sometimes this is how ourprayers are answered, by giving us an experience of the unknown. This is the time to allow yourself tostretch and ‘not know’ what will happen today or tomorrow, but just staypresent to how you are feeling, be gentle and nurturing with yourself andengage with your deep conscious breath.
Where does it say you will know exactly how Divine willenter your life?
Personally, the last two nights, I have been sleeping with aSelenite crystal under my pillow. Selenite is for opening your crown, heart and changing your DNA to alignwith your Divine Self, as well as many more properties. It is made of fire and water, just likeus. It is over 600,000 years oldand mined in New Mexico and points south. It can be known as cell-ignite!
What I have been feeling is expanded and my moleculestalking to each other wondering where they belong, inside me or outside ofme. It’s been an interestingday. I have total trust thatDivine is working with me to change and deepen Divine Love within me, so I’mletting go of any control over my life, having to know what direction I’m goingin or needing anything and trusting that my next step will begin to be revealedin perfect time (as it always is). For now, I’m going to just relax and allow the energies to work with me without my ego needing to know how it will look, or that I need to keep ontrack or anything else.
Try it for yourself just to see if you can break any old habits. Try not listening to the ego's inner voice that might be convincing you to 'do' things to make the feelings change. Just try to be kind.
Here is what one woman wrote to me today . . .
"I can feel things are shifting to an unknown place. I'm not sure if anything feels predictable or stable in my life - and I realize that's a good thing because it means I'm letting go of some of the old familiar ways that aren't needed - and at the same time I'm not sure what is calling me".
I say YAY for you!
To your, and our, blessed events!
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on March 23, 2010 at 2:33 AM||comments (0)|
Threshold – Our Spiritual Ceiling
Typically in January I’m lookingfor planning/feeling out what my year is going to be like and there’s not muchhappening until the end of the month. I don’t think I’ve ever had a fullclientele at the beginning at the year, this is new for me, in Jan. So,this has allowed me to ‘see’ things, situations and people in a newlight. What I’m noticing about everyone I’m in touch with, is that theemotional body is way more stirred up in January.
During December, people areexhausted, doing more, regular schedules plus holiday things, traveling, seeingfamilies, it’s all so much more than our regular schedule, it gets veryexhausting. Then in January they are all excited about making new yearsresolutions and even if they are not into resolutions they are seeing the newyear as fresh and new. The thought is, It’s a new year and maybe I cancreate something new this year. They have a good outlook at the beginning ofthe year, then something happens, and I don’t know how it gets stimulated, butsomething happens where, maybe it’s because they started dreaming really welland they like their dream and they want to have their dream and then they hitthe ceiling, a threshold, and the thresold has no frequency to hold any spaceother than the space they have been in.
Since I now have my pulse a littlebit different on the consciousness thru the Crystalline Clearings’s . . .This is all the emotional body that is out of whack.
Ahh, this is exactly what athreshold is. It is that place where you cannot hold the frequencybecause you don’t have any experience of it but you want it more than anythingelse in the world and you will do anything for it except when it gets your
your emotional body down you don’twant that disturbed.
What people have been saying to meall month is “it’s so hard”, “why is it so hard” and my answer is if you hadfelt this when it first happened, it wouldn’t be so hard. But when we firstfelt it, we pushed it down because it was too painful. So it turned toresistance so you reach the threshold of that familiar pain and you hold itdown and if you keep holding it down you are never going to get out of thisuntil you go through it. So you might as well go through it now and havethe kind of year you want. The Crystalline Clearings will definitely helpthis. Then you’ve got more of an opportunity to start holding thefrequency the way you want and at the level you are choosing, your fresh start.
This is the way one of our CC Groupexplains the above:
We say we want something, we getexcited and energized about some vision, some feeling, of something that wewant and we have the opportunity and the hope for it then as we actually starthaving to be in relationship with it in reality with the day to day we have toimplement this stuff. In a way, we get back into our old patterns asopposed to staying in the vision and the hope what is of service to us.
Exactly, the frequency of what wewant, we have the dream of what we want but we don’t have the feeling ofit. We don’t know what it would feel like to own a billion dollars. Andso, when you have $10,000 and you have never had $10,000 you will get just asfreaked out as if you had a billion dollars.
Because you don’t know how to holdthe frequency of that which you are claiming, don’t have relationship with it,or to it, or with it. So it lives outside of your box in your limited thresholdand then the threshold you are continually interacting with is the limitationinstead of your dreams.