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|Posted by Sheryl Jai on March 15, 2016 at 8:15 PM||comments (0)|
FROM GUESS BLOGGER (with permission) TIAMO DE VETORRI
Women, do you have a voice in your head that says things you would never say to another person?
If you did... That would be hurtful, painful, and perhaps even abusive, right? So, why is it ok that you say those things to yourself? Loving others starts with you, yes?
MEN, do you have women in your lives that do this to themselves? Do you wish they could only revere themselves in the way that you revere them?
That's why I wrote this song called "The God In You" for ALL women. Ladies, for just a moment, turn the voice off in your head and... Allow me to sing to you in my music video.
I ask you to believe everything I sing about in this song. Because in my reality, it's true. Will you make it true for you?
And if you find yourself having a hard time believing my words, that's ok. But, imagine if you thought this way about yourself on a regular basis. Wouldn't your life transform?
I invite you to try it by watching my video! http://bit.ly/1S2Y1Fr
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on November 19, 2014 at 4:40 PM||comments (0)|
There's a New Mainstream Out There -- and You're Probably Part of It From The Huffington Post
By Dianne Collins (Original thinker, media personality, creator of QuantumThink)
Who are the people of The New Mainstream? What do they want? What do they know? What are the economic, social and political implications of this rapidly-rising tide?
I'll tell you why I had to write this. I've encountered a phenomenon that needs to be shouted from the rooftops. There's a burgeoning underground narrative going on and it's time for it to surface. In fact, it astounds me that marketers, business leaders and political strategists have remained unaware. It's huge.
After being interviewed on hundreds of radio and TV shows during the past three years and listening to at least double that number preparing, I had to ask myself -- was there a larger purpose to my experience on all these shows? What was I being shown by The Force? Nearly 300 interviews and 900 shows later, the realization isn't so startling. It may even seem obvious -- yet it needs to be said:
There's a New Mainstream out there.
You're probably part of it.
I call it "The Consciousness Crowd."
Millions of people the world over are part of The New Mainstream. It is defined neither by generation, by politico credo, nor by religious creed. The New Mainstream is defined by recognition that we are in a time of awakening to a new mindset, an expanded worldview and yes, a higher-level consciousness for humanity. The New Mainstream is defined by a cosmic pulse of awakening -- a new consciousness!
"Consciousness"? Not exactly a phrase that gets bandied about in cocktail conversation and in boardrooms. Or does it?
WHO ARE THE PEOPLE OF THE NEW MAINSTREAM MYSTICS AMONG US
You don't have to know the properties of crystals or see aura colors to be part of The Consciousness Crowd. You don't have to be able to deliver a lecture on the principles of quantum physics. On my virtual media tour across cultures and countries I encountered show producers, hosts, guest and listeners who are scientists and physicians, entrepreneurs and executives, celebrities and politicians, teachers, students and homemakers, architects, artists, accountants and attorneys. All of them are talking about the leap to higher consciousness and how we get there. Yes, really. What The New Mainstream really means is you are waking up and you want the rest of the world to wake up, too.
WHAT THE NEW MAINSTREAM WANTS "I WANT A NEW POINT OF VIEW"
I had to ask myself: Why are more and more people tuning in to these shows? What are they gaining from it? I realized what they really want: a new point of view.
The New Mainstream craves conscious conversations beyond political diatribes, fear-based marketing, glamorization of disease and drugs, religious hypocrisy, and limited either/or "silo" views posing as thinking. The New Mainstream desires a more profound, authentic connection to life, an acknowledgment of our literal interconnectedness, economic interdependence, and spiritual interrelatedness.
The New Mainstream wants politicians worthy of being leaders, voters who look at the person not the political party to determine the best leader, media who ask questions of substance that lead to sustainable solutions. The New Mainstream wants health practices grounded in advanced energy sciences, nutritiously cultivated food that tastes good, too, entertainment featuring characters who reflect the new consciousness, and education that teaches youth essential knowledge of the five natural faculties* of "quantum" mind.
The New Mainstream wants a different narrative where human rights don't require fighting for and a world economy is not dependent on the military industrial complex for it to thrive. They want an end to the hypocrisy of proclaiming values and virtues we aren't actually embodying and pretending that's okay. They want intelligent media that displaces horrific scenes looping on the "the murder and accident report" journalistically masquerading as the news. The New Mainstream wants more than finger pointing and seeks discussions not of who's to blame, but what's at the source -- of bigotry, terrorism, political animosities, corrupt leaders, income inequities -- so we can create real solutions.
THE BIG ANGEL IN THE ROOM
Why haven't economic and political strategists caught on? Perhaps because they are stuck thinking from fixed demographic and psychographics that The New Mainstream simply doesn't fit into.
Millennials, Gens X, Y and boomers and even octogenarians are all in for higher consciousness. The New Mainstream is not just people "trying to make it." People of fame and fortune want a new consciousness, too. Witness: Pharrell's magnetic, meteoric appeal to millions of fans who want to be Happy, Jim Carrey's commencement address to the Transcendental Meditation community's Maharishi University, Paris Hilton spotted toting a popular spiritual book under her arm, Russell Brand's "The Trews" punditry on "the real news," Arianna's passion for The Third Metric, conventional news and talk shows regularly playing clips of political "awakeners" couched in the comedy of Jon Stewart, Stephen Colbert and Bill Maher. The clues are everywhere.
The economic impact of the The New Mainstream appears to be untapped. Imagine what addressing the values and mindset of this audience could mean to commerce, to entertainment, to political ideologies.
Please don't make the mistake of relegating The New Mainstream to a subculture.
Neti, Neti -- Not This, Not This.
New Age? Not.
Cultural Creatives? Not really.
Liberals? Not political.
Mindfulness? Not enough.
There is a Sanskrit phrase used to weed out what higher consciousness is not.
Neti, neti. It translates as: Not this, not this. Let's be clear: The New Mainstream "consciousness crowd" is not just another name for New Age, Cultural Creatives, Liberals, or Mindfulness.
New Age? It's not.
It's shortsighted to trivialize The New Mainstream by pigeonholing them as self-help, personal development, touchy-feely or whatever muddled interpretation people have of the term "New Age."
Cultural Creatives. It's not the same.
The distinction "Cultural Creatives" was established in 2001 by sociologist Paul Ray and psychologist Sherry Anderson to distinguish the growing psychographic they called a "subculture" -- based on differences in value sets and varying lifestyles contrasted with conservative Traditionalists and cosmopolitan Moderns. These lines are blurred in The New Mainstream.
Liberal? It's not political.
There is a crucial distinction to be made here. When Michele Obama wants better food for healthier kids, when Sting wants us to take care of our oceans, these are not political stances. This is awakened consciousness, aware of the grave consequences of poor nutrition on productivity and happiness of younger generations who will lead the future, and on the vital role of oceanic-atmospheric health to every area of life, from commerce to creatures.
Mindfulness? It's not enough.
How wonderful that stressed-out executives and hyperactive children are practicing "mindfulness." Our Quantum Age is teaching us we have to see life differently than we previously believed and we have re-structure our thinking. Mindfulness is a great start for personal awakening, yet not enough to characterize the emergence of The New Mainstream. We have to see the bigger picture.
WHAT THE NEW MAINSTREAM IS TALKING ABOUT
The content of the conversations is about the stuff you see elsewhere in the old mainstream -- the state of the world, politics and relationships, money and health, business and career, purpose and meaning. The difference is not in the topics of concern -- the difference is in the POV, the point of view. It's the context that's different. Paradoxically, the new POV does indeed expand the topics of conversation.
People converse on topics ranging from the merging of science and spirituality to how we can think differently to have the world work. They discuss advanced energy healing, ecological inventions, intuition and the power of intent. They speak about the monumental paradigm shift from the Industrial Age to the Quantum Age. They discuss, matter-of-factly, research on near-death, after-life experiences and angelic realms along with cutting-edge neuroscience, quantum discoveries of mind-to-mind and mind-to-matter connections, and the scientific evidence for the role of the spiritual heart in maintaining an experience of peace and well-being.
WHAT THE NEW MAINSTREAM KNOWS
Our collective state of being gives rise to the state of the world.
The New Mainstream knows that our state of consciousness, individually as well as collectively, is the fundamental and ultimate driving force of every aspect of life -- giving rise to all of our results. We are the ones creating all of it according to our habits of thinking.
OUT OF THE CONSCIOUSNESS CLOSET
The New Mainstream has the simplest and yet the most profound of all goals -- to be happy, to know how that happens, and to become masterful at creating it, for each and everyone.
Until now, the consciousness crowd has kept themselves in the closet. The closet is full and bursting. It's time for the consciousness crowd to come out and recognize themselves as The New Mainstream. The New Mainstream may be the latest in-crowd, but make no mistake about it. The desire for conscious awakening is not just a trendy idea. The New Mainstream is here to stay.
* "5 Natural Faculties of Mind" refers to: Intent, Intuition, Subtle Energy, Resonance, Meditation
From the author's book Do You QuantumThink? Page 316
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on November 4, 2014 at 5:00 PM||comments (0)|
“When a fairly spiritual male friend of mine who had finally found and was deepening into committed relationship with his soul mate confided in me he was thinking of being single again, and in the next breath expressed his latest idea for raising consciousness worldwide, I wrote this poem.
” If you want to change the world… love a woman.
Really love her.
Find the one who calls to your soul, who doesn’t make sense.
Throw away your check list and put your ear to her heart and listen.
Hear the names, the prayers, the songs of every living thing- every winged one, every furry and scaled one, every underground and underwater one, every green and flowering one, every not yet born and dying one…
Hear their melancholy praises back to the One who gave them life.
If you haven’t heard your own name yet, you haven’t listened long enough.
If your eyes aren’t filled with tears, if you aren’t bowing at her feet, you haven’t ever grieved having almost lost her.
If you want to change the world… love a woman-one woman beyond yourself, beyond desire and reason, beyond your male preferences for youth, beauty and variety and all your superficial concepts of freedom.
We have given ourselves so many choices we have forgotten that true liberation comes from standing in the middle of the soul’s fire and burning through our resistance to Love.
There is only one Goddess.
Look into Her eyes and see-really see if she is the one to bring the axe to your head. If not, walk away. Right now. Don’t waste time “trying.”
Know that your decision has nothing to do with her because ultimately it’s not with who, but When we choose to surrender.
If you want to change the world… love a woman. Love her for life-beyond your fear of death, beyond your fear of being manipulated by the Mother inside your head.
Don’t tell her you’re willing to die for her. Say you’re willing to LIVE with her, plant trees with her and watch them grow.
Be her hero by telling her how beautiful she is in her vulnerable majesty, by helping her to remember every day that she IS Goddess through your adoration and devotion.
If you want to change the world… love a woman in all her faces, through all her seasons and she will heal you of your schizophrenia- your double-mindedness and half-heartedness which keeps your Spirit and body separate- which keeps you alone and always looking outside your Self for something to make your life worth living.
There will always be another woman. Soon the new shiny one will become the old dull one and you’ll grow restless again, trading in women like cars, trading in the Goddess for the latest object of your desire.
Man doesn’t need any more choices. What man needs is Woman, the Way of the Feminine, of Patience and Compassion, non-seeking, non-doing, of breathing in one place and sinking deep intertwining roots strong enough to hold the Earth together while she shakes off the cement and steel from her skin. If you want to change the world… love a woman, just one woman .
Love and protect her as if she is the last holy vessel. Love her through her fear of abandonment Which she has been holding for all of humanity.
No, the wound is not hers to heal alone. No, she is not weak in her co-dependence.
If you want to change the world… love a woman all the way through until she believes you, until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion, her wildness have returned to her until she is a force of love more powerful than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her.
If you want to change the world, lay down your causes, your guns and protest signs. Lay down your inner war, your righteous anger and love a woman… beyond all of your striving for greatness, beyond your tenacious quest for enlightenment.
The holy grail stands before you if you would only take her in your arms and let go of searching for something beyond this intimacy.
What if peace is a dream, which can only be remembered through the heart of Woman?
What if a man’s love for Woman, the Way of the Feminine is the key to opening Her heart?
If you want to change the world…love a woman to the depths of your shadow, to the highest reaches of your Being, back to the Garden where you first met her, to the gateway of the rainbow realm where you walk through together as Light as One, to the point of no return, to the ends and the beginning of a new Earth.
Guest blogger, Lisa Citore, http://lisacitore.com/about/
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on October 7, 2014 at 5:50 PM||comments (0)|
Lost Art Form: Getting to know people
Are we only living in the age of quick, short and fast communication? Really? How fulfilling is that for you?
The people I talk to want MORE fulfilling relationships, not LESS!
While we dearly appreciate the four agreements made popular by Don Miguel Ruiz, one of which is to not assume anything, this is exactly how we live today. Assuming we know what is inside someone from a quick, short and fast answer on text or facebook or twitter or whatever form of social media you use.
We are in relationships, the very closest ones with family and dear friends, yet how many of them are really how we would like them to be?
We have tried and tried and still we do not know how to ask the very questions that would give us the depth of relationship that we so strongly desire. Many of my clients come seeking greater clarity on how to stay current with changing relationships, spousal, friendships, and their children’s growth. This year more than any other, this one topic is clear – we have not been connecting on the level of love.
Some examples: We are assuming we have agreements on many simple things like how to parent children, just because one parent doesn't argue with the other. Or, when we ask for something simple and our mate ignores us as if we have no opinion or needs other than for them, and we fail to ask for understanding. Or, when a child is so afraid to go to school because they do not know what they need or want and do not ask for help from a grown up or mentor, then get bullied. The list is long and as you can imagine there are many more forms of assumptions happening within relationships, on every level.
In my tenure on this planet I have had the greatest learning possible in having a direct relationship with the one I had been wanting all my life, my divine, the God of my understanding. This relationship has taught me that I do not EVER get an answer unless it is an answer that supports my growth!!!!!!!! Let's break this down a bit. With divine's support and love, I have learned to love myself. This does not mean that I don't have judgements and criticisms about myself from past conditioning. It just means that no matter what I need, it's a true need, in the moment, and I give it to myself. When I make assumptions I quickly realize that there is no relationship happening with my divine. I listen deeper and find that an old belief is pursuing me and I begin to feel uncomfortable. With that, I check in and ask a question pertinent to what I'm wanting in that moment. That is when clarity comes and support and growth are there for me.
This simple practice has taught my mind to become more curious about life more than assume I know how things will go. This simple practice has changed my relationships from being confusing to being more agreeable, because others feel and know that I am understanding what they want. In return, if I am not getting what I need, I ask to be heard, or ask to have a moment of attention, or offer some feedback as to how the interaction is causing my next move with them. If there is no response, this tells me more about how the relationship can continue – at this point, for me, it either becomes a surface relationship or one that slowly dwindles to nothing.
When I am heard, at the very least (this does not mean that I always get what I want either) I have a deeper sense of connection with that person and the relationship can flourish. That deep connection happens in each moment. It's not always about getting what you want, it's about taking a risk to ask, listen and ask and listen. This gives us all a feeling of deep connection with another. Some times it’s only a matter of feeling another’s heart is open to hearing you completely. When that deep need to connect is fulfilled, the 'wants' just seem to be fulfilled on their own.
Shazna is available for spiritual mentoring and guidance coaching to transform your everyday needs.
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on September 3, 2014 at 4:30 PM||comments (0)|
Ways to comfort yourself during times of change
Eat healthy comfort foods. Include lots of good oils like coconut, ghee and castor. This will give you a nice feeling of fullness. Feed your body what will give you new cells that speak your true self to the old cells that are sluffing off. Don't cheat on yourself.
Rest when your body says it needs rest. Avoid overwork, pushing through the day and worry about things that are not up to you to figure out. When you lay down to rest, empty your mind of the day by giving gratitude to all that happened and more gratitude to yourself for doing the best you can, ask for help with the rest.
Breathe Deeply. Sometimes change can cause the body to slump or shallow breathe because there is so much going on. So, when you feel this take some conscious breaths and say your favorite mantra (I am here now) or, i love you, for 3 breaths. Do this often during your day to help stay present and clear.
Watch the way you explain your situation, Every Word is a Prayer, so you are constantly speaking your truth without complaining about it. Your words go directly to the God of your understanding. Example, 'everything is so hard' could be 'I'm learning how to handle hard things in my life'.
Help someone else. When you feel hopeless or helpless, look for others to help. A simple smile, or opening a door for someone, or offering a hand with a simple task won't take any energy from you to do but will give you mounds of good karma back. When you are open to this, it will show up for you to say 'i can help you with that'.
Be tender and gracious to yourself. Go slower than you think you need to. I can promise you that life will continue to flow (well) without you if you slow down. You do not have to be in charge of everything you think. Being slower can allow for conscious choice in each moment, a chance to express your true self rather than a reaction. And can give you a moment to breathe and actually see what is true for you before you speak or act.
Have Gratitude. Whatever you water, blossoms, right? When you give gratitude to others in your life, yourself and recognizing that the God of your understanding is with you ALL the time and can begin to see the ways things work out without you working so hard or having to pay attention to so many details or berate yourself for missing some details, you will see just how precious you truly are and are honored for being alive.
Drink more clear pure water than you think you can. This helps to flush out old toxins that store in fatty areas and cells that are ready to slough off. This is very important to overall health and vital energy.
Last, ask for help. Whenever, whereever and whatever you need. People are usually open to hear and provide whatever they can for you. Ask for a hug or a conversation with tender listening. Have big gratitude for your friends and family willing to help you in times of need and any time.
from my book 50 Feet in 4 Seconds, the True Story of a Leap of Consciousness and Ultimate Health.
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on June 23, 2014 at 1:05 PM||comments (0)|
The eyes of God see me
Everywhere I look
The eyes of God looking at me
I see the light and peering through the trees, I see the light of God’s eyes staring at me
Walking in the park I see the eyes of nature’s love giving me the love of the divine
Pondering the limitless state of knowing that I am - there – everywhere
And everything looks towards me
Mutualy, synchronistically in each moment that I am seeing
The picture of divine’s eyes are in everyone, everywhere - and I am moved
My heart expands beyond it’s physical capacity to an unknown realm
Thoughts and past knowing melting into trust that my purpose here is shown to me in all I see
As the eyes of God see the love in me – God is pleased
New Groups forming in Ashland, see One Heart Mission facebook page
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on May 20, 2014 at 4:00 PM||comments (0)|
What if I told you that, for real, no kidding, you could have everything you ever wanted n your life, not in the time you want it, but even better than you could ever imagine?
Would you question it?
If ALL you wanted was given to you right now, would you be able to have it all now?
How much would you doubt over and over and over until, maybe, one day, you would give it to yourself?
All you would have to do, is . . . get this . . . breathe in gratitude. Yep, that is it! No magic, no studying, no learning anything new.
Just look at your own life and actually ‘see’ the good that you have already. Like, I’m so grateful that I have a boss you truly loves me more than anything else in the world, and that boss is me.I am so grateful that I have my own home that my heart is bursting open feeling the love of my home and how amazing it is to have the colors I want, the location I want, the street name I want, grant st, yes, I am receiving grants now for my foundation and I am so grateful. The feeling of grateful, for me, is in my heart. I see it, taste it, feel it open me, smell it - it’s like heaven, hear it - it says to me ‘lovey you are so beautiful and we love giving to you’ and now I’m knowing that my gratitude, my sixth sense is fully activated now and in presence. My seventh sense of open is demonstrating that with an open heart, mind and being, I receive what is completely appropriate for me, no other agenda, just gratitude.
I am learning this as I unlearn that thinking about what I am grateful for is truly a practice, but being grateful is unphamtonable. And, before the day ends, just before midnight received another paying client for tomorrow, while watching tv and feeling my heart opening to gratitude. The time is now peeps.
There is no tomorrow. The time is now to own, yes, own your senses in a timely manner, know who you are, yes, even this trite statement means so much when you slow down enough to really get it, and own your power and what is naturally happening inside you. Not only say yes to it, be grateful for what you already have, what you are wanting and the food in your refrigerator, the toilet paper on the roll when you need it, the phone to dial, the computer working, the car starting and running on empty for a week and yes, still running, the people who paved your driveway and street, the people who put on your favorite tv show, the sweet invitations at the other end of the phone, the gifts that come without asking, It’s like a super highway of love and gifts directed at you. Open and receive them, now.
See that you already know what to do. This is what happens for me. I truly get something and realize the difference it will make in my life to keep doing it, call it practicing. But something happens over time. It’s like, I get tired or complacent in the practice, or I get bored about having so much and begin to twart my own practice and get on that merry go round, only to return to the practice realizing it's all in my mind - i must use all my senses to truly 'see'.
My quest-i-on to God/Divine/Goddess is to show me how to maintain that frequency, that energy that will hold as a natural state of being the grace that is the flow of gratitude without having to practice or get on or off track. The truth comes - It is truly nothing more than a choice in the moment, until it becomes natural, which I do believe with all my heart that it can become.
Until then, choose, every moment to live in grace, by realizing with your mind, words, thoughts and most important - your feelings, that you are grateful for your very existence. Not lying to yourself or needing to be positive. Please don't hear that in what I'm saying. I'm talking about shifting to a natural state of being - gratitude.
Silly as it sounds, I feel time speeding up, especially after these last three eclipses (8/09), which is similar to me of the last month's energies (4/14). They were very powerful energy for me. I felt weak at times, sick, no energy, and the next day full, deeply connected and yet the next day, weak again, no energy, no way for my thoughts to support myself. And it seemed that the world right next to me was watching me.
As I stopped at a light in my town, I saw three beautiful young men crossing in the crosswalk in front of me. One of the men was particularly beautiful without a shirt on - my thought and heart felt, ‘Wow, he’s beautiful’, immediately he looked up at me as if I said it out loud and pointed his finger at me while changing his gate into a swagger and acting exactly like Joey Tribiani on friends said to me as that finger pointed at me with a flirt, ‘how YOU doing?:” is that proof?Ah, there’s so much more. It’s almost as if every thought of mine is picked up by someone else, or I am picking up someone else’s thoughts and they are immediately acted out. This is Grace and it’s happening all the time, just pay attention. And a word of caution, if you are angry or stuck in an unproductive feeling, it will get acted out by someone immediately. We have free will and this is the key thing to know and remember here.
Gratitude works . . . and so does free will. All the time. You can bank on it, probably better than the economic culture we are changing right now. So don’t focus on anything in particular. Just be grateful of the little things, in every moment. If you focus too much on what you want to happen, then you are putting out lack energy on that thing. It won’t happen as easily as if you take your focus off that and put it onto what’s right in front of you and love and have gratitude for that.
Look around you in this moment and you will see what there is to be grateful for. My books, my desk, my lights, lots of pens to write with, my beautiful fingers gliding across this keyboard, the agility of my fingers, the knowing of where to go as I think, the fresh slightest of breezes that come in the summer night, the sound of the birds singing in the trees, or is that crickets, it can go on and on and on, and what more precious to do than to keep your focus on what is real, you.
Two techniques to build your Gratitude Muscle:
1. When you are laying down from the day, before you go to sleep, go over the things that DID happen and be grateful. When you come across something that didn’t get done or happen, let it go and be grateful that tomorrow you will find the solution.
2. Take moments to write what you are grateful for, or, just say in your heart during your day, as you do what you do, what you can be grateful for in each moment. Writing seems to be powerful for some, like me, just re-reading your own words can fill your heart with love. Some people keep a gratitude journal daily.
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on May 12, 2014 at 2:10 PM||comments (0)|
The cost of words and the gift of them.
We live in a society where we are desensitized to how we come across to people.
The gift of words can as compelling as a gift or be like a knife, without you even knowing. I submit that everyone walking this earth has dealt with some difficult times in their life.
When you speak to a friend, family member or casual acquaintance, you will never know what may uplift their day or upset them, or trigger them into an old wound. We also have no common language to express our pain and hurt to each other in a socially acceptable, friendly way.
Yes, there are many techniques you can learn, and, how many people will learn the same techniques you do, so that when there is a sticky situation, you both are on the same page?
This situation is one of the places that keep us separated from each other. To me, it has become intolerable and I am looking for a solution – a common way to express when things go awry in a relationship.
In my experience when there is a conflict the old way or typical reaction is for people to run away from each other, take their love and presence away or damage each other further by using more words that wound. Just hearing someone you love or care about say ‘I don’t want to talk about this’ is so hurtful.
So I am looking for the solution within me. Investigating. Asking my divine to help me ‘see’ clearly and understand my own responsibility to my communication. Where have I hurt others with my words? What have I done to others that hurt them so much they could not talk to me anymore? What have I said that touched an old wound and kept people from relating to me any longer?
The answers come and I change, regularly. Life gives me lots of practice.
When a conflict comes up I look to see how authentic I can be towards myself first. It seems to be working because there are less conflicts between me and others. And the interesting thing is, I notice more happy people around me rather than people in conflict. This slows my reaction and my responses. I'm noticing more. I find that my responses become more loving towards others, because I am checking to see what I need first (which is a loving act towards myself).
Sacred living is the vision that motivates me in life. Within it’s very nature are keys to keeping love present. The question is, when will we all have the same goals – to keep relationships honest, authentic, vulnerable and real and deepening to a place where love exists even when there is a wound? What do you say?
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on April 9, 2014 at 5:20 PM||comments (0)|
From a Oneness Blessing Giver who just passed away, Ed Karlovich, guess blogger
If Love Is All There Is, What Is I?
Where Love is not, I takes over
Love is peace, so I carries anger
Love needs nothing, so I wants and accumulates
Love is now, so I plans and controls
Love is abundant, so I worries
Love is ease, so I is dis-ease
Love is free, so I accepts limitation
Love is joyful, so I is sad
Love flows, so I efforts
Love is complete, so I is not good enough
Love accepts all, so I makes judgments
Love is blissful, so I seeks pleasure and avoids pain
Love is eternal, so I is afraid
Love offers only Love, so I defends
Love watches patiently, so I is anxious
Love is still, so I is in action
Love understands, so I has to "get it"
Love sees only Love, so I sees others
And so it goes... Love allows I to be as I is and simply watches
Why does I have to bring to life what Love does not?
Now always contains the choice:
Love or I Now the human is faced with a choice:
Love or I Life lives freely when I finally cooperates by choosing Love
Those who enjoy the life game being I are not wrong
Those who are not enjoying the game so much may choose to awaken
Open up just enough to give
Love room and recognize the game called life
Life lived awakened to Love is beyond words to describe
The game is so brief
by Edward Karlovich, Jr. May 18, 2012
|Posted by Sheryl Jai on March 31, 2014 at 8:10 PM||comments (0)|
by guest blogger and Oneness Trainer Margaret Nichols
Polar Vortexes. Worldwide government overthrows. Financial market swings that make Lindsay Lohan look stable.
There's no question there is massive global flux. Great tumult, but also a coinciding collective awakening towards mindfulness and heart-centered living as a way to deal with it. We're reaching for new solutions.
Increasingly popular yoga, meditation, conscious eating and spending, even corporate culture -- mindfulness in every aspect of our lives is raising our consciousness in evolution.
Many of us are put off from beginning or adhering to a spiritual practice because of an innate sense of unworthiness within. In a Catch 22, it's only when we allow ourselves the vulnerability of seeing and being in that unworthiness, that it begins to dissipate.
The higher we rise in consciousness, the less small "s" self we experience, and the more capital "S." (Let's call it higher Self, Source, Universe, you can deem it whatever you want; the intelligence we're connected to which is bigger than us.) The more Big S we have, the more flow in our lives and the more connected we feel to others.
As we let go of the small "self," we become witness to our thoughts. Sounds sorta scary, but it's actually completely and utterly freeing. The pinnacle of this is what yogis for thousands of years have deemed "Mukti" or liberation. Ethereal in concept, yet these days, it's amazingly quite real.
For better or worse, the nature of the mind is to compare and contrast. Much of our lives -- all of our lives -- are spent judging others and ourselves. So often, when we set out to spiritual practices, we want it to look perfect. We feel like frauds if we have too much to drink, lash out in anger or would rather watch Bravo than CNN.
And on the flipside, tightly sewn into Western culture is: you have to be "good" to be spiritual.
I've heard teachers proclaim they refuse to teach a student who "_____." (Fill in the blank for that teacher's personal Achilles heel, whether it's drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, meat.)
It's irrelevant how "good" we are; all we can do is start where we are.
With a gentle awareness and intent to be real, any pattern can be disrupted. We never fix anything that's broken, we only uncover the bliss we inherently are.
Addiction is a total lack of awareness. A person is totally merged with this (misperceived) sense of small self, some call it mind or ego. There's no space between an urge or desire and its execution. Even if the head says, "you shouldn't" there is an involuntary physical action to reach for the cupcake, drug, cigarette, perhaps a less-than-stellar guy or gal.
As we consciously evolve, the more distance we have between these two selves. The small self is inherently more selfish, and the bigger Self is more (literally) self-less.
What's most fascinating is that when we show up, the addictive patterns, thoughts, desires, fall away naturally. There's no need for challenges or willpower. All that's necessary is intent and a soft focus to show up to the mat, the pillow, juice bar.
It's the unconscious that governs these patterns. All of these mindful practices inherently loosen the unconscious patterns so that they can release.
One particular vice I used to have was Vodka. I'm Polish. I was "nursed on it," I joke sometimes. (Like all decent jokes, it's funny because there's probably some truth to it.)
Vodka was my escape: my spiritual kryptonite. With awareness and practice, here is how any pattern frees:
An incident happened where I was set off into a "negative" emotion; we'll call it a "charge."
A charge happened: I went straight to the bar.
(Enter yoga, meditation, blessings, self-reflection, etc.)
A charge happened: (There was an opening, a breath, I saw myself wanting to go straight to the bar. I noticed it was a reaction. There was a space there. I began to see ... I considered not going.) But still: straight to the bar.
Charge: (A few more moments of awareness ... one day ... the decision to sit down to meditation rather then go to the bar.) Then after the meditation: straight to the bar.
And one day, finally: Charge: and sitting down. Dealing with it. Being with it. Being able to finally be in the reality of the moment. Not needing to go to the bar.
After that day, I've been able to enjoy martinis because I wanted to. Not because I needed them. Not to mention, they're far less frequent.
Of course I'm not saying it's admirable or necessary to drink to grow one's consciousness, all I am saying is, it's possible. Obviously for addictions that are life-threateningly dangerous, abstinence and medical supervision should be involved.
But for the rest of us -- most are addicted slightly to one thing or another. We know our vices. Yet, whatever you resist, persists. So if it gets you to the mat, the practice, the meditation, that book that you feel drawn to, if it helps, keep martinis on the menu. Soon enough we'll need them less and less. Na zdrowie and Namaste.
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